Hi,

I'm Emily.

Authenticity Specialist

I believe everyone deserves to live full, happy lives as their

unapologetic, authentic selves,

and together, we'll make that your reality.

My Story

Living as My Authentic Self

In 2018, I made the hard decision to "blow up my life."

On the outside, it looked like I was living the picture-perfect life. I had been married to a great man for 11 years. We got along well, and we had a 4-year-old son together. But beneath the surface, I was on a journey of questioning and discovering my true sexuality.

My husband knew about my questioning, and our attempts to navigate this aspect of me led to choices and conflicts that, looking back, I could never imagine making now.

Ultimately, I came to the realization that I was in fact a lesbian, and once I realized the truth, there was no more denying it. I knew I had to make a choice: stay in a life that wasn’t fully mine or "blow up" the life I had built to live as my authentic self. So, in 2018, I chose to end my marriage and come out.

It was terrifying. I had to face the reality of coming out to my very Catholic, conservative family. I had to leave behind the stability and security of the only relationship I had known since I was 18. I had to grapple with guilt, fear, and the weight of disrupting the life I had built. But through it all, something powerful happened— I found freedom and peace! For the first time, I was fully, unapologetically me!

In 2020, I met my now wife, who had also come out later in life. We married in 2022, and together we’ve built a life filled with joy, peace, and deep authenticity.

But this story isn’t just about me. It’s about you.

I know how confusing, isolating, and terrifying it can feel to face hard choices. I know what it’s like to wonder if it’s too late to change your life. But I also know the incredible joy, peace, and self-trust waiting for you on the other side. That’s why I’m here—to be your guide.

Together, we’ll navigate the fears, the doubts, and the questions. I’ll help you break through the blocks that are keeping you stuck, so you too can experience the freedom and peace of living as your authentic self.

The path isn’t always easy. But I promise you— it’s worth it.

Are you ready to stop questioning and start living? Let’s walk this journey together.

How I Can Help...

Living authentically often means making life-changing decisions—like ending relationships that no longer align with who you are, stepping away from a career that doesn’t fulfill you, or starting something new, even when others don’t understand. It can mean setting boundaries with family and friends, exploring new passions, or building a life that looks completely different than the one you had before.

But authenticity isn’t just about making one big decision. It’s an ongoing journey of growth, healing, and transformation—a process of becoming the most aligned, fulfilled version of yourself.

And you don’t have to navigate that journey alone.

Whether you’re:

✅ At a crossroads, ready to take the next step but unsure where to start...

✅ In the middle of change, craving support as you navigate what comes next...

✅ Or working to maintain and deepen the authentic life you're building...

I’m here to help you:

✨Get clear on what you truly want (even if it feels messy or confusing right now)

✨Break through fears, doubts, and blocks that are holding you back

✨Make bold decisions from a place of confidence and self-trust

✨Create a life that feels aligned, joyful, and deeply yours

Through the resources below, I’ll help you create lasting, meaningful change, because you deserve to live and thrive in life as the REAL you.

Are you ready to take that next step? Here's how we can walk this path together...

Late Life Lesbians

If you are on the journey of discovering your true sexuality later in life, click below to find support and resources specifically for this unique situation.

Live as the R.E.A.L You!

An 8-week Transformation Program

My signature 8-week 1:1 program is designed to guide you through the process of Releasing what no longer serves you, Embracing your true self, taking bold Action, and Living as your unapologetic authentic "real" self.

Mind Shifting Sessions

These sessions are for those needing ongoing support or a quick boost to keep moving forward. You'll resolve negative thoughts and emotions so you can overcome what's keeping you stuck.

Why Work With Me...

I know what it’s like to face life-changing decisions and choose authenticity, because I’ve lived it. Since coming out in 2018, I’ve been committed to showing up as my true self every day. But my experience isn’t just personal, it’s professional.

Since 2022, I’ve worked with over 300 women discovering their sexuality later in life, guiding them to step into their truth and build lives that align with who they are. As an Occupational Therapist since 2008 and a Certified Mind Shifting Coach, I bring a unique blend of experience, compassion, and proven tools to help people navigate major life shifts with clarity, confidence, and courage.

While my journey began with helping women coming out later in life, I’ve expanded my work to support anyone ready to live authentically, no matter what that looks like. Because here’s what I’ve learned:

The obstacles to authenticity are universal. Whether you’re:

💡 Discovering your sexuality

💡 Changing careers

💡 Setting boundaries

💡 Leaving relationships

💡 Making any bold life decision...

The challenges—guilt, fear, shame, doubt, and uncertainty—are the same.

And so is the deep joy, freedom, and peace on the other side.

I understand what it takes to:

✅ Break free from limiting beliefs and societal expectations

✅ Overcome fear and self-doubt

✅ Make bold, aligned choices

✅ Trust yourself and live a life that aligns with who you really are

You don’t have to do it alone. With my experience, tools, and strategies, I’ll help you navigate your journey and create a life that’s fully, unapologetically yours.

If you’re ready to step into your truth, I’m ready to walk alongside you.

Download My R.E.A.L. Framework to get started!

4-Steps to Living Authentically

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